This month’s prompt really got me thinking, so much so that it kept me up in the middle of the night typing on the notes app on my phone for quite a while. As someone who struggled with infertility for a number of years, I have heard a lot of people’s unsolicited opinions about what we should do or not do, uneducated advice, and downright hurtful and painful things. I’ve been told that I don’t understand the value of family. That I need to stop acting like we’re the only ones in the world who’ve experienced infertility. We’ve been horribly humiliated in front of family as they laughed and made jokes about our situation.
This month’s prompt to think about the things I need to hear right now opened up a flood gate for me. So I have a full page of journaling this month. And I thought about editing it, and making it read more professional, but that didn’t seem right to me. What is here on the page is what flowed out of my head that night. And I have to say, it was a pretty interesting experience journaling as if I were someone else.
I think what I wanted to hear the most was that I would have been an awesome mom.
Putting this layout together was pretty simple. Of course, I wanted the journaling to be the main focus, so that took up a whole page. I loved the colors and pattern of the diagonal striped paper, so I put some of that down the left side of the page. Then I did some hand stitching along the edge to give it some texture and fussy cut out a flower. Very simple. I made the title bold and turned it to the side and placed it along a black and white picture of the side of my face and ear. It’s a pretty literal interpretation of “what I need to hear”.
Instead of numbering my list of what I need to hear, I fussy cut out some triangles to use as bullet points in my journaling. Lastly, I added the black strip of words along the bottom of the journaling to reiterate what I need to hear.
Thank you for reading about something that is a very sensitive and vulnerable topic for me. I hope you noticed that the list of things I need to hear have nothing to do with “fixing” the problem or offering a solution. It has everything to do with being a compassionate and empathetic human. And ignoring it and acting like the infertility doesn’t exist because it makes you uncomfortable is not the way to go either. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you want to be treated if you couldn’t have children? Thank you again for reading.